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Oddly, Zack doesn't think about wedding 24/7 nor does he spend his evenings staring at photos of strangers weddings. Well guess what kids - I do every day and I love it. When I ask him his opinion on something his answer has become "Your Day, Your Way". I wish he'd give me a bit more to work with. But I know if he actually hated something he'd tell me and elements of the wedding that he cares about he's pretty outspoken about.
However, in some ways his little phrase isn't so bad after all. The day certainly is all about us or at least all about us sharing our commitment to each other with our near and dear. So let's talk about the things that we are doing that aren't so traditional:
1. I'm having a man of honor. {You'll "meet" him soon}
2. Zack's sister is standing with him as a grooms-girl.
3. Our wedding isn't in a church - a big deal for my family.
I'm sure that more things will come up as we continue the planning process. What are you doing that's different for your area or your family?
I'm sure that more things will come up as we continue the planning process. What are you doing that's different for your area or your family?
6 comments:
My little brother became ordained online and is going to marry us... my mother wasn't overly thrilled about this (she was afraid it wouldn't be legit), but she's coming around. =)
We're not doing anything outrageous or different - but my guy is the same way. Even though music is important to both of us (we're band geeks together!) he told me he trusts my judgment and just doesn't have the time to care as much as I do.
As most movies about weddings portray the groom being "not into details" (via the wedding planner) I have to say they were exactly right. Steve's infamous phrase during out year a half of planning was....."Whatever tina/you think." If someone else asked him, he would say whatever tina things. If i asked him whatever you think. Not that he didnt care or have any opinions but #1 he knew i was putting "our" best interest at heart while planning and like zach says "your day, your way" in steves mind that meant he knew how most girls dream about their wedding day for years.
With that being said i have to say, he actually has thanked me everyday since on what an incredible day it turned out to be and when people approached us that day and spoke about how spectacular it was, he was very quick to say....thank tina she did all this amazing work. Which i thought was really sweet.
Let's see... I just pissed off my entire inlaws at the start by planning a wedding that was not local, not inviting every.single.person my mother in law knows and having it on a beach and not in a church. I was somewhat redeemed by paying for them all to stay for the week though.
We got into quite a few fights with my in laws about doing our day our way but in the end, it was worth it. The only thing we ended up conceding on was having a best man and maid of honor (who came with a flower girl). Chris's best friend was really upset when he wasn't asked to be in the wedding - we originally wanted NO ONE. But it was low-key bridal party-ness so it worked.
I'm learning to be more ballsy but it's difficult especially if family is helping financially. One area I have the hardest time is getting the guest list from my parents! I'm somewhat planning out of town, I'm two hours away from my hometown.
My fiance is the same way! He jokes, "a happy wife, is a happy life".
Very exciting... love how you have a man of honor!
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